Motherhood was a role that took time for Yolanda. Between military, great aspirations of a career and motherhood, Yolanda battled bitterness and as she would ashamedly say, the stigma that comes along with being a “stay at home mom” most times. One of the most challenging seasons Steve and Yolanda walked was four months into their first pregnancy, with their son in early 1999. The elated couple went in for their gender reveal ultrasound. “This joyous occasion took a drastic turn when after the ultrasound technician waved the wand along my belly, she stopped and said she needed to go get the radiologist. Steve and I began o panic. Was something wrong? The radiologist and other technicians were brought in to look at our baby on the monitor. What was going on?
“Two years into it, we found out it was unlikely we could conceive. I put a lot of blame and shame on myself… Is it my fault I can’t have babies? You don’t want to tell anyone…
The challenge in that season is staying connected. We are fighting all the time. Taking my temperature. Everything has to be done so on a schedule because you are trying to get pregnant.
Keep God first. Your relationship second. The hope + the promise third.”
We all know what happens next… the angel, Gabriel, appeared to Mary and told her how she was favored by God and chosen to carry a son. Naturally Mary was completely freaked out given that she was a virgin. The angel explained that the Spirit of God would come upon her and that is how she would become pregnant. Now, I am not one to shy away from God’s calling… but can you imagine what possibly could have been going through her head? “What will my parents say? Will anyone believe me? What will Joseph think? God, are You sure about this?” But what was Mary’s response to this news… Luke 1:38 “I am the Lord’s servant. May your word to me be fulfilled.” Wow. Even as a young teenager, possibly preteen, Mary’s faith was not rattled.
“I was a good girl. All the things you read on paper that you are supposed to do as a Christian, I did.. I remember feeling angry, feeling that God, I had done everything right… You put all this hope on these moments in your life and you expect them to be a certain way and that year, the year I did a lot with the label that I was signed, was not a great year. What you think in your mind everything’s going to be like, it’s really not.”
“The Lord showed me how to be married to an emotionally unavailable husband and still love him. I came out of the restorative process a new person. God’s love is so amazing. As I started healing, the Lord showed me my husband through new eyes. My marriage began to prosper. My husband began to understand truly how much God loved him through the love I expressed towards him…”
“I grew up in a society where women had little rights and Christianity was banned.”
“The fear of not measuring up robs us of seeing the value in our influence, and it keeps us on a perpetual quest to be better than others.”. ― Jenni Catron
“Everyone needs to be valued. Everyone has the potential to give something back.” – Princess Diana
“In 1782 Deborah Sampson serves for over a year in General Washington’s army disguised as a man. After being wounded, her gender is discovered and she is honorably discharged. Later, she receives a military pension from the Continental Congress.”
image credit: Headquarters Marine Corps, Brig. Gen. Margaret A. Brewer, the first female Marine general
“You are stronger than you believe you are. Women are fighters. Women are lovers of justice. Women are nurturers. And at some point in our journey, circumstances attempt to steal those truths…”