How to Be My True Self at Work Not long ago, I found myself overwhelmed, confused and scattered when it came to working. There was always so much to do, at all times, for so many. This started a personal pursuit for understanding true work, finding MY work and making peace with both tedious jobs […]
We were created for relationship. We survive because of relationships. We are made for relationships. We need others and others need us. In Part 1 of this series, we studied a secure bond between a caregiver and a baby. Even if we did not experience this bond as a child, we can learn as adults […]
What Does it Mean to be Your True Self? Who is my True Self? What does it mean to be my True Self? Maybe you have asked the same question. I was confused for many years about this Self that was the real me. It seemed to me that the real me was not quite […]
“I think one way God uses our comfort zones is to understand more of Who He is, and, unfortunately, I think the typical view of God is fluffy clouds, cupcakes and puppies. You know, all the happy stuff. But, as I mentioned in a previous blog, a life with God can be ruffled and risky. It can mean being interrupted and inconvenienced. It can mean taking a chance on someone or even putting your life on the line for another. These things are uncomfortable, and, as Joyce Meyer has said, we need to “get out of the boat.”
As I look back on the past 14 years, if I had to choose the most important thing that has led to our marriage success, I would choose submission. Note, I am defining marriage success as being still married and living in peace and joy with one another. It doesn’t mean we don’t have areas of improvement. However, we are a team, one flesh in Christ, and we are improving together. Now back to submission. Submission to God and one another, in love, has been the single most transformational catalyst in our marriage (no pun intended). Through the years, God has graciously taught us and shown us His love. He has taught us both how to love one another with His Love. You have to understand, love is from God and is God. Love does not exist outside of God.
“Sometimes thoughts or feelings begin to creep in, comparison begins to strangle that joy. As I pray through those thoughts, those feelings, I realize that my “abundance” and other’s “abundance” looks different. I realize that that it is my choice on how I am going to live, how to respond and it’s my choice how to move forward. It’s ok not to be ok, but it’s not ok to stay that way!”
Sister, I need you to hear this- there is a real enemy and real war against you, but I don’t want that to intimidate you. God has designed women for war from the very beginning, so be encouraged- you don’t need anything more than what you have right now. God has already given you what […]
“There are no coincidences with God. He can use you – just as you are and just where you are. Even if it’s a really crummy place. Perhaps even more so if it’s a really crummy place. God has never worked in me and through me more than He did during the times I was walking through the darkest valleys of my life. As we navigated the illnesses and deaths of our two boys, God gave me the desire to be open, honest and vulnerable in sharing our story. What started as an intent to share medical updates in an efficient way, turned into a platform for sharing our hearts and what God was doing in our lives. And He used it. He used it mightily. Words penned from my sons’ hospital rooms traveled farther and reached more lives than I ever could have imagined. I sat beside their beds, wondering, “Why him? Why us?” while pleading with God to change our circumstance, but what He did was so much more. A place that held the worst moments of our lives was also the place He used us the most.”
Have you ever heard the terms “believe the best” or “assume positive intent?” If you haven’t, I’ll break it down for you. Basically, these phrases mean that whatever a person says or does, you choose to assume or believe they did not mean anything malicious, rude, ugly, or bad about their words or actions.
This is a very hard concept to accept and posture to adopt. When a person says something that is hurtful, we as humans, automatically jump to the defense or put on a face of anger, hostility, or judgment. Friends, this is not a healthy way to live.
Earlier this year I was blessed to go to a yoga retreat with Beyond Yoga in Franklin, TN. The entire weekend was focused on rest. The recommended reading was a book called “Sabbath” by Wayne Muller. It’s tagline is “Finding rest, renewal, and delight in our busy lives.” I brought my Real Simple with me and this issue just happened to be called “Relax and Recharge.” I read an article about the martyr complex- WOW. Eye opener. Then I was reading She Reads Truth and the chapter I read was about not worrying… Specifically about Matthew 6:26-30. This is usually referenced when people are worried about physical needs being met- clothes, shelter, etc. But the author put it in a whole new light for me, worrying about just being. The birds and flowers don’t fret, or try, or strain to exist. They just rest in God, knowing He has created them to just be. He’s got them covered, they just need to rest in Him. Wow, what #truth.